Rags & Chit Chat : Home for the Holidays

There’s no place like home, really. Even when you haven’t been there before you know what it feels like. A wise man once told me that the first time he stepped onto African soil, perhaps physically he had never been there, but his spirit had been there and was happy to be back. For the thousand foreigners the holidays present an opportunity to go home for a few weeks and escape life here in America.

I had been away from my homeland, Liberia for 13 years when I went home last December. Somehow the years that had passed due to school, career and life as a whole seemed to melt away as I lay on the beach at Nana’s Lodge, a popular beach resort in Grand Cape Mount County, Liberia. At that moment I made a promise to make this trip as often as possible and to always renew my commitment and love for Liberia regardless of where I was in the world or in life.

For those that will be traveling to Africa, India, Europe (or many other places that my friends and I call home) for the first time in many years and/or for those that want to travel a bit smarter this year, below are five ways to make your holiday trip to wherever, better. This is the list I wish I would have seen before my trip last year and I am hoping it will contribute to a better experience to all my lovelies.

  Get to Sewing: If you are a fashion lover like me that knows that couture pieces can be made in many foreign countries for incredibly reasonable prices, you need to get a tailor, days, if not hours, after arriving at your destination. In Liberia for instance, there are many tailors so finding one to cook up your dream pieces might take a while. I suggest getting recommendations on tailors from locals. Be clear on what you want and communicate your vision with pictures. You will need a lot of patience to deal with the schedules of tailors and possible unforeseen alterations to your pieces. The key word here is time, use it wisely and you will be able to leave with a suitcase full of fabulous pieces.

2Diversify your Experience: Partying on a beach never really gets old, does it? However, you will be happy that you saw all that your destination had to offer if you get out of the club and into a waterfall during the duration of your trip. An intentionally diverse trip will not only leave you more well rounded but will also leave you with an eclectic set of memories of it all.

   Give Back: Make time to give back to your community by visiting an orphanage, school or church. During the holidays many organizations and individuals host Christmas events for local families and children, so there are many chances to be something great to someone. Leave your homeland knowing you did something selfless to aid the country’s advancement.

4. Capture It: There is no such thing as too many pictures on a trip. Beaches, old hotels and buildings, crowded markets and more can be the dream of a photographic eye. I suggest even hiring a professional photographer to capture the spirit of the country and of your trip. You can find a local photographer for a great price and stimulate the artistic economy all at once. As a framed keepsake of your experience, all year long you’ll be able to reminisce on the good times and those pictures could be great conversation starters on your desk at work.

5 Note to Self: I acknowledge everyone does not love writing like I do but little notes to self are a great way to revisit a feeling and/or an experience possibly for later analysis. I have read the notes I took on my last trip to Liberia and have made some amazing self discoveries from them. So even if it’s a couple key words, jot down some tid bits from your trip. I promise it will make for a great read on the 10+ hour plane ride back.

Coming home should be a wonderful experience and with these tips it can be so much more. If you do nothing else, book that ticket to wherever home is and live it up 100% in the moment.

Rags & Chit Chat : Four the Things that Matter Most

It has come to my attention that there are only 4 categories of relationships. Okay, that could be the over organized Virgo in me talking but I think I'm on to something. There may be a few shades of gray within these categories however they remain the umbrellas under which we interact with each other.

While cleaning out my metaphoric and literal closets I started thinking about whom and what deserved to be where in my life. Below are my results;

Partner: This is undoubtedly the most important person and item in your life and closet. Although you have family and friends that you love dearly there is only one person or item with which you share this kind of intimacy. Your partner is the first you call when the news is unbelievably good or disastrous. This person knows you sometimes better than they know themselves.

For some people (like myself) this is a husband, for others perhaps a brother or friend of many years. I've had some great partner practice with some extraordinary people. Those dress rehearsals have made me learn and love who I am so much more so that when I stumble upon my life partner, he's going to be in for a treat.

The equivalent of this partner in my closet is the shoe. Unlike the former, I have many sole mates and am always working on getting more. Shoes make or break any outfit. Often the shoes on my feet cost more than the rest of my entire outfit. Why? Because shoes should be about quality. In many other areas in your closet you can cut the quality corner for a trend or a great interpretation of a classic style. However when it comes to shoes it does not make financial sense to have a closet full of cheap ones that will give up on you after one season. This is the place in your closet worth investing, dry cleaning (for suede shoe lovers) and repairing. A great shoe, like a great partner will give you all the love you give it for a lifetime.

Besties: I had four best friends waiting for me when I got to this life; my mommy and my three sisters. Other than the tattoo the Garnett Girls share there is an irremovable mark that is carved on each other hearts. As for my Mommy, there is no visible mark but her influence and our love is everywhere in my life. These women plus the three other ladies I've selected as family makes me pretty spoiled with lots of sisterhood and the love that comes with it.

I have this same philosophy when it comes to purses. I want them all fly and unique like my besties. Some are classic like my oldest sister Charmille, some are Afro Futuristic like my big sister Tanya while others Sexy Fly like the sister right above me, Quellie. The point is each bag is unique and screams something about me or the me on display at the moment. Bags & besties are like mirrors; they reflect some part of who we really are inside.

Close Friends: I have a few that I love dearly. No, they’re not my best friends but many have been around for years and I’d do almost anything for them. There is love here and these people would have key roles in my Lifetime movie.

This same feeling goes for my jeans. About two years ago I went on a jean strike until I could find the perfect one. I discovered there was no perfect jean after all; like people, each one had its unique imperfection. These days I add a pair or two to my closet when I find an amazing fit but my wardrobe reflects many other options that vary from shorts, rompers, jump suits, pencils skirts, etc… The jeans that remain are versatile and sometimes the only thing, or friend that will do for a certain occasion.

Associates: This group of people aren’t really needed but isn’t life a little more entertaining with them present? Associates. Clearly not friends but people you say polite hellos to. Sometimes, they’re your dentist or perhaps someone from college. They are there to add a splash of color to life.

Trends are just that, a simple way to mix up the classics in your closet. Some will be your go to item for a season and others are hating on you silently (which you discover a season later in pictures from that era). Either way they’re for fun and will always say something about who you thought you were once upon a time.

So, that’s the truth as I know it here from 23 years of life. Insert your own understanding and just remember to be your best because being a mess is just not an option.

Rags & Chit Chat: I'm A Transformer. No Apologies.

by Nykita NynaTouch Garnett on Tuesday, June 8, 2010 at 5:42pm

I must admit I might have a small problem with authority. This rebellious attitude does not reflect my feelings towards all authority, just ones that I dont agree with. This mind set has put me in some interesting situations; illegal parking stickers on my car (hey, why cant I park there?), reports from some of my early school year teachers for having too much opinion (no seriously, this happened in 7th grade, parent/teacher conference and all) and lately my most common disapproval has come in the form of strange looks every time I switch up my hair between weaves/wigs that I rock and my natural hair.

I have some pretty strong opinions about hair as many other women of African descent. Sometimes we agree and sometimes we don't. I do see one repeating source of disagreement amongst myself and my African sisters; the allowance that is allotted to switch up my hair as I please. I refuse to have to pick a side or dare I say box. I am the natural 'soul sista" but I am also the "weavelicious diva". I embrace that complexity of self, unapologetically.

I love weave! Yes, I love the freedom that it permits to experiment with different styles, colors and trends. I am however, not a slave to it like many women that I know. As the prices of this commodity continue to rise, it saddens me to see women around me struggle and/or spend thousands of dollars to make the Indian hair purchase happen. This desperation to continue purchasing consistently is often out of fear of actually rocking ones real hair in its natural form. This self imposed prison and commitment to weave is peculiar to me.

It broke my heart to hear an associate of mine say, 'I just dont feel fly without my weave." I have said this controversial statement before and I shall repeat. The moment that you cannot look at yourself in your natural state; no weave, no fake nails, no contacts, fake eyelashes, etc and feel beautiful, you have a mental issue that you might want to get checked out. This is the heart of self loathing that can easily spread to other parts of your self esteem and overall productivity in life.

There is a whole business dedicated to making women feel inadequate in their self. Check out the billion dollar beauty industry. I refuse to be a victim, although I have been pressured by managers, publicists and producers of all sorts to pick a look (usually one that involves a weave) and stick to it as someone in the entertainment industry.

I find that my carefree attitude towards my switch between weaves/wigs and my natural hair shocks and even makes some people around me uncomfortable. I have been told multiple times that if I was serious about pursuing any career in front of the camera I need to pick a style and stick to it. Ok, the purely logical part of me can understand that my hair switch up could make me difficult to identify, which could be an issue as I establish my brand. However, there are many other ways that I can brand myself outside of my hair. Also, it is very important to me that my brand represents something much bigger than the dead cells or hair that is not mine on my head.

I love Ms. Badu and she embodies the freedom that can be attained in the entertainment industry from such physical pressures. Years before she truly freed herself in her controversial “Window Seat” video, she inspired me with her hair strip tease in the documentary film, Dave Chappelle’s Block Party.

In the midst of Erykah’s performance she flings off the wig that is being challenged by the New York wind and hindering her performance only to reveal her short hair underneath. I love this moment. It represents Erykah’s priorities and dedication to her performance as an artist as well as her challenge to all systems that pretty much demand that women never be seen out of “character” which often involves artificial additives like hair.

As I love weave I also love my natural locks that I’ve been growing for a little over a year since my last chop friendly session. I wear whichever one I am in the mood for on any given day. If I’m rocking a big Foxy Brown inspired afro one day and my short caramel dipped locks the next day; the jig is up, that was a wig and I’m ok with you knowing that. This reality is one of the most freeing ones of my life and I invite you all to join my liberation. Throw out the rule book! The only good hair is healthy hair that does not compromise your health physically, mentally and/or emotionally.

My message here is to love YOU with and without artificial additions. Life’s too short to live in fear and as my Mommy says if you live in fear you might as well die. So do you and just remember to be your best because being a mess is just not an option.

Rags & Chit Chat: We Fly High!

Its one thing to be fly independently but double the flyness is always hotter. Like Fashion needs its Culture every fly gentleman and lady needs their swagful counterpart. I'm sure that my independent girls and guys are definitely disagreeing with me right now, but hear me out. As an advocate of amour and fashion, I must say that the flyest you can be is next to your equally well dressed partner. There's nothing like walking down a sunny street in your Leopard flats, skinnies and Stunnas accompanied by your Argyle clad Suga as he adores you through his aviators. In honor of the love affair of fashion and culture, this edition of Rags & Chit Chat chronicles some of the most fashionable couples of the past, present and your future.

There have been countless precedents of stylish twosomes in time. In 1975 Berry Gordy brought one of those amazing duos to life in his film, Mahogany. The movie starred Diana Ross as a struggling designer turned supermodel and Billy Dee Williams as an aspiring politician in search of opportunities for his community. Their Ying Yang existence in combination with their amazing chemistry and the iconic amount of style in the film undoubtedly makes them one of the flyest couples on screen ever. They exemplified the glamour of the 1970s and were one of the first depictions of black love at its best.

Another astonishingly dynamic duo were revolutionaries John Lennon and Yoko Ono. The Beatles' John Lennon and avante-garde artist Yoko Ono were a pair that packed a political and artistic punch. They outwardly spoke out against the Vietnam War and created some of the best art of their time. Along the way they put down the groundwork for the marriage of political thought and awesome style. They stood together for freedom and expression in every way.

In the sea of celebrity couples very few stand out like lyricist Nas and genre breaking vocalist Kelis. Both of these New York natives are living legends. Nas, son of Jazz musician Olu Dara, established himself as one the best MC's of our time with his poetic album Ilmatic in 1994. He has continued to impress us with his bold lyrics that simultaneously educates and exposes street life and of the history and existence of African people in America and globally. His bossy sidekick Kelis is not the woman behind the man but is instead the one right beside him in all ways. Mrs. Jones, the daughter of a Jazz musician father and Asian Puerto Rican fashion designer mother, was born to create a world as diverse as the one that she grew up in. Since her colorful debut album, Kaleidoscope in 1999, she has jumped in and out of genres such as punk, R&B, funk and hip hop all while establishing herself as a style icon in her always fashion forward get ups. Nas and Kelis are definitely a treat for the eyes and ears.

What happens when a trendy California girl hooks up with uncomfortably handsome British boy? You get the lovely couple that is Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale. The former front woman of ska band, No Doubt and the former front man of British rock band, Bush were married in 2002. Stefani has been impressing the world with her refreshingly unique style and music for over ten years. Rossdale has been crooning the ladies with his amazing voice, stunning appearance and high above average artistry on the guitar for just as long as his misses. Together they represent the ultimate rock couple that we love to watch.

I've mentioned some of the flyest couples ever but have not yet mentioned the most important of all these. This set is really impressive. They're stylish, caliente and most important their up and coming. I'm talking about you and yours. Yes, that includes you single women and men; because the reality is (in my rose colored glasses at least) that one of these days most of us are going to meet our match. As for those that have already met theirs, congratulations, and for those that are still looking keep your heart and minds open to the possibilities.

In any case, I encourage everyone to always keep not only yourself fly but your mate as well. Ladies that might mean dragging your Honey to Little 5 here in Atlanta, where you can respect his personal style, but polish it up where necessary. Guys that might mean showing your sweetheart your knowledge of a Jimmy Choo shoe design and encouraging her in her fly ambitions. In any event, style is just another place where you can find a common ground and show your love for your partner.

Always remember that flyness starts within so any duo that keeps the love and support of one another in tact are sure to keep their flyness in tact as well. With that being said, remember to always dress to impress because looking a mess is not an option.

Rags & Chit Chat: Fashion Speaks Louder Than Words

The effortlessly elegant bride graces the aisle as her Vera Wang gown dances across the flowered tile. The groom’s Armani suit awkwardly accented with a DSquared ascot is a perfect description of his classic yet modern demeanor. He stands confident and strong as a vulnerable tear falls from his jagged chin. Witness the marriage of fashion and culture.Honestly it’s not the most surprising union, after all they have co existed since their birth. In fact, anyone that loves either one would surely attest that they can not exist without one another. The fruit of their union brings us here today, an eclectic child that they appropriately named- Rags & Chit Chat.



Rags & Chit Chat is a cultural voice of fashion everywhere that it lives. The fashion and culture column is based out of Atlanta, GA and was birthed from The Urbanite Magazine of Georgia State University. Consider it your culture and style GPS helping you to navigate through the diverse jungle that is the culture and fashion. Look here for the latest news about upcoming trends, fashion events, classic style and the culture that simultaneously feeds and breathes life from its own art.



Fashion has existed for as long as there has been any form of society. In every civilization fashion has been an indicator of various things, most notably your social status and the social group that you identify with. So, I ask you, my dear reader, what does your style say about you? The previously naked Adam and Eve’s new found style revealed their knowledge of good and evil. Similarly, a $7 T-shirt paired with $300 True Religion skinnies accented by an $800 pair of Christian Louboutan ankle boots says volumes about a particular young lady’s appreciation for the simpler and much finer things in life. The idea is that what you have to say isn’t just coming out of your mouth; your appearance speaks too.



So, I hit the streets to find out what GSU students were talking about.The population at Georgia State University is refreshingly diverse. On any given day you can be sure to find a reflection of all life styles; amongst the many you can easily spot your punk rockers, cross dressers, preps, b- boys and girls and of course the many divas that roam the GSU streets from Courtland to Gilmer. When asked how to describe her personal style, senior Denitra Gober expresses it as “eclectic”. She further explains how her personal look changes from day to day “one day Geisha doll, the next Keisha from around the way and the next Heather with my books”. It’s that very idea of what you wear as a reflection of the character you want to play that day, that is at the heart of personal style. Fashion is the freedom to be whomever you please for as long as you have on your favorite Jackie O’s or Parisian beret. It is the ability to maneuver easier within those characters that makes certain individuals so unique.



Even with that being said, and acknowledging that we all love to believe that we are truly unique (this is possible but very rare in our culture) the reality is no matter what you wear, it undoubtedly puts you in a category. Consider racial profiling towards young black men. Black men categorized as urban are more victimized than their conservative counterparts. Unfortunately, a young Black man wearing a white tee and Jordan’s has more of a chance of being discriminated against than his brother wearing a Polo sweater and loafers. We have digressed from a culture whose view of clothing was rooted in functionality to a culture that views fashion and style as an extension of an individuals’ personality.



In this highly aesthetic world that we exist in we must constantly evaluate our self image and the assumptions that go along with that image daily. So, remember always dress for success because looking a mess is just not an option.